Many of us would wait and postpone the setting out of their unusual abilities in management and creativity until some apparent turning points like getting married, having a good job or inheriting a wealth. The postponing time would thus remain a matter of chance and speculation. Other people may not at all be aware that management of life and achieving success is a clear cut outcome of well established rules and definitions. Given the known statement I once had in a school language book: “you are a state in yourself”, one should learn too how to invest and strive to apprehend and exercise those rules of self-management.
The management of self includes everything one may do and would be surmounted by either well being or recession. It includes everything from the way one speaks and eats to the way how to think and evaluate. It includes, accordingly, time management, setting of values and aims, and decision making. With the view of an eagle’s eyes the management of self is the biggest topic under which we may understand our care to get good education and good company, to excel professionally and socially and have an impact that may last after we have left this world. Such information about the optimal handling of one’s resources, the so called the ‘management’ or the ‘marketing’ of self, is crucial for an appreciable conduct in life, and the next step of its rules and details should be a subject of time and/or trial and error.
I know that I may not be the person who could be very helpful in discussing this basic life item as I need to learn it too. However, I could convey a few advices I have just read in reading book for prep school: 1) be generous to others, 2) take it easy, 3) think good about others, and 4) do not exaggerate in punishing others. From my personal notices; I realize that the very personal view and impression of the individual would determine the way in which he/ she acts. That’s why it is important to determine and define which kind of person one would like to be: a noble, tight-fisted, depraved or trivial. A noble person is a one who willingly treats people generously and good. Tight-fisted is the person who won’t be good unless to face an expected loss or shame. Depraved is the one who intentionally and persistently does bad. Trivial is a person who crudely and undetermined doesn’t do good and he/ she may not do it under any case. Each one of these four person types could have almost typical attributes considering values, ideas, aims, interests and conducts.
Very relevant to the management of self are the motives and drives. These could show and provide many embarrassments especially for those who wish to live as nobles, because they may be a common place for defects and weakness. Embarrassments could happen when they faithfully and nobly consider an issue that may not be considered at all as wisely placed by others. And the weakness could be when they grow a lot of fear that shadows their deeds and hampers their progress. In situations where fear would be an element one has to distinguish between courage (opposite of fear) and prudence (wisdom) from one side and fear and defeat from the other. In other words, in order to beat your ‘sweeping’ fear does not mean to dispense with your wisdom and its ‘decent’ courage. Because in many situations being wise and prudent can dictate the same act as that of being fearful though the motives in the two cases are absolutely different.
When I decided to become a physician I was keen only on that title and profession that suit my ambitious character and passionate nature. As time passed over and over I am aware now that I was and had to choose a way of opposites. Such opposites may contrast extremely in real and fancy and in action and the proposals, and – at the same time – they may reflect an example of an honest and working counter mix with fine thinking and naïve reflection.
I don’t see yet the value of wearing eye glasses as some may have advised. I should not argue that my sight is as sharp as that of a teenager but really I am still can do without. Eye burns and scratching could come from time to time for some kinds of stress and I don’t like to overestimate such temporary complaints. Wearing eye glasses is sometimes fashionable or stylish but I am still stuck to my early days of fabric independence. I do not succumb to the must-study seasons and the sleepless nights but like to run, swim and shape muscles. And though I am deeply not a dress model, it can happen to become a one when the situation dictates it. By the same way, I am not such all-in-one person but when it is needed it can come to many things; interpreter, writer, poet, painter, etc.
The very serious themes of the medical care among the house corridors, noises of wheel chairs and smell of antiseptics and the different wounds could hardly capture my fancy as a streaming sailor or a floating sky diver. I believe in Shakespeare, appreciate Newton and admire Einstein. Being a qualified physician I am supposed to be a scientist too. I know I am neither hindering death nor helping it. Death is a destiny and I try to bring about a fortune of health and wisdom. But do not then wonder if I am a physician or a priest.
I am so simple that I care about every detail and decide for the one that touches my genuine defects.
عيادة -eyada- (a clinic), عربية -arabiya- (a car), عروسة -arousa- (a bride), and عزبة -ezba- (a farm) are the 4 عين (ains) that a future physician would be promised – in the Arabic folklore – along his struggle to become a notable physician. In the past, the medical doctors; Arabic: (singular) Tabib or Hakim, were commonly clustered in certain families with special note of nobility and luxury. At those times, medical knowledge and interest were almost inherited like other heritages and the intentions behind medical practice were largely moral. This view has changed dramatically in our present time as the majority of physicians come out of families that might not have a single physician along a whole previous century. As time passed on, and due to other social and economic changes, the physician’s work has become, like other professions, a living-earning work.
In the enchantment of becoming a medical doctor with rising dreams of respect and fame the physician has to accomplish a balance between academic and personal satisfaction and an agreeable financial condition. In this regard, the physician has to afford the main bulk of social burden, compared to other professionals, because a considerable number of people would be unfair in exploiting the beneficent nature or aspect of the medical services especially when dealing with a highly spirited and shy ‘doctor’. Very shamefully is that a kind of ‘tug-of-war’ between the doctor and the patient is not infrequently seen instead of a clear and transparent handling. The drop in the moral attitude of some doctors (service providers) and/ or some patients (service receivers) could be fueled by extremely shallow perception of the medical service and life as a whole from either side or both sides.
My present idea about this ‘financial’ and ‘administrative’ problem of the physician’s work is to declare and ask for the ‘medical service fee’ as long as the context of the medical service permits. In general, the physician should tell the patient and/ or his relatives whether he would need to get the medical fee or he would be able to dispense with it before starting seeing the patient and providing the medical service. One could note every case with date, medical problem and provided service together with the estimated fee regardless whether it could be paid or not. This archive would help both professional and socioeconomic performances of the physician being a form of medical case and turnover registry.