A first lesson in love

a first lesson in love
The smart and noble looking teenager, though still in his 14th year, looks much adult in both his stature and way of thinking. He feels much responsible and takes on his academic career as a matter of life or death. Intelligent and unchallengeable goes the compulsive super pupil from a year to the next in the prep school. The life conqueror is getting by time more confident that he deserves a better life, in terms of financial and social aspects, than the modest one he used to have. And therefore, he holds firmly on a self-imposed oath to be straight and to obtain high degrees and honors. On the way for his goal, he listened carefully to the moral and ethical constants in his community which he saw almost reasonable and natural.

Among the trivialities that the growing idealist has to overlook is the ever increasing behavior of needless talks and claiming love among school boys and girls. According to the way he was brought up, he saw such things ethically unacceptable and childish or shameful. “Those pupils cannot be serious, because it is too early to think about love”, he thought, “This heavenly demand should be sought in a community-approved way and by people warranted to bear such a responsibility”. It was, thus on this conservative background, quite manageable for a faithful and ambitious young man to contain such nascent instincts of this age period.

While studying his lesson on the roof of the house at the midday came to him the daughter of a good neighbor of his. The girl gave him a small piece of paper in which she wrote by a pencil the famous statement of announcing love and appreciation: I love you. The little girl, while giving the note, stared seriously at him and never spoke any word. The girl was so little that he perceived her initiative quite neutrally. He could already find her big excuse as he saw himself as a true idol; “still so young for such commitment rather.”

The actively studying pupil was impressed by the character that very keenly imposes herself and writes her first words of love, if not her first written words ever. Yet, he did not get how serious the little might have been. Even he could not think that such a little first-year primary school girl may have the insight and the readiness to think of what love would mean. He answered her silently with a very brotherly smile. In that time it was too early for him to consider seriously such a socially stressed issue such as love or marriage. He went on studying his lessons, getting a bit closer to his goal of brilliance and meanwhile overcoming his ordinary personal and social obstacles.

A few years later, while he was to finish his university degree, he learnt that the daughter of his former good neighbor has entered the same prestigious faculty as that he has just finished. Of course, her good news cheered him, while as an idealistic and sensitive newcomer he was struggling in the beginning of his practical life. As time passed and he got a bit more mature, the life conqueror thinks it was his first lesson in love that had been given by the daughter of his good neighbor, the 6 years little girl at that time.

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The idea of religion

the idea of religion
A religion is sometimes thought of as a sum of rituals and believes with varying impact on the running of daily life. According to religious provisions one may select from a wide panel of life trends including marriage, outlook, interests, values and food. The presetting of a magnificent Creator and supra-human will is also sometimes a great concern of religious belief. As a mere kind of inspiration, religion may not surpass being an idea that long tackled the human intellect and spirit.
Being “religious” on such definition may denote a sort of discipline and order. It may entail also a given appreciable standard of good values, morals, passion and reasoning. A religion could be an adoption of respect and creative attitude to restrain a natural tendency to shallowness and recession. Remedies, free time, jobbing, social life, beautiful surrounding and healthy food are basic life-issues that may be influenced by religious believes.
In this vision, religion is not a mere set of obligations and restrictions but more a system that cares about and ensures an effective and harmonized performance and proper out-shaping of human needs and capabilities. Indeed, religion is concerned with perception, science and justice. Science can be an approach to justify a given religious belief that in turn encourages scientfic perception of life in the best proved human experience. Justice, on the other hand, is the almost indispensible common factor in a religion that praises peace, forgiveness and perfection.

Love is made

Love is a sweet sensation that makes every burden and effort as pleasant and joyful as wandering in a beautiful green park with trees and perfumed fresh air. Love is a basic need for everyone, a feeling of being precious, unique and wonderful to somebody. It means also a vision of beauty, peace and perfection everywhere. I think that successful and great people have all experienced great love as they were inspired their amazingly fine visions. In this regard, a rule may prove right that is the more one loves, the better and finer one becomes.

Love is not gifted or found. It would then be a matter of chance whether one loves or not or whether one is loved or not.  But love is to be made and looked after in all consciousness and with all care and for all the time. Waiting for a reward for one’s love by being loved back is a shallow idea about love. This is because the direct and soon reward for love is that satisfaction and relief one has on making an obscure love evident. Being loved back is quite unforeseen and may need long times to ensue. Love expression is a skill that one should discover, learn and further. It entails many characters and principles like praising high morals, faith, respect, courage, and self-confidence.