in-the-point (poems and essays)

The management of self

Many of us would wait and postpone the setting out of their unusual abilities in management and creativity until some apparent turning points like getting married, having a good job or inheriting a wealth. The postponing time would thus remain a matter of chance and speculation. Other people may not at all be aware that management of life and achieving success is a clear cut outcome of well established rules and definitions. Given the known statement I once had in a school language book: “you are a state in yourself”, one should learn too how to invest and strive to apprehend and exercise those rules of self-management.

The management of self includes everything one may do and would be surmounted by either well being or recession. It includes everything from the way one speaks and eats to the way how to think and evaluate. It includes, accordingly, time management, setting of values and aims, and decision making. With the view of an eagle’s eyes the management of self is the biggest topic under which we may understand our care to get good education and good company, to excel professionally and socially and have an impact that may last after we have left this world. Such information about the optimal handling of one’s resources, the so called the ‘management’ or the ‘marketing’ of self, is crucial for an appreciable conduct in life, and the next step of its rules and details should be a subject of time and/or trial and error.

I know that I may not be the person who could be very helpful in discussing this basic life item as I need to learn it too. However, I could convey a few advices I have just read in reading book for prep school: 1) be generous to others, 2) take it easy, 3) think good about others, and 4) do not exaggerate in punishing others. From my personal notices; I realize that the very personal view and impression of the individual would determine the way in which he/ she acts. That’s why it is important to determine and define which kind of person one would like to be: a noble, tight-fisted, depraved or trivial. A noble person is a one who willingly treats people generously and good. Tight-fisted is the person who won’t be good unless to face an expected loss or shame. Depraved is the one who intentionally and persistently does bad. Trivial is a person who crudely and undetermined doesn’t do good and he/ she may not do it under any case. Each one of these four person types could have almost typical attributes considering values, ideas, aims, interests and conducts.

Very relevant to the management of self are the motives and drives. These could show and provide many embarrassments especially for those who wish to live as nobles, because they may be a common place for defects and weakness. Embarrassments could happen when they faithfully and nobly consider an issue that may not be considered at all as wisely placed by others. And the weakness could be when they grow a lot of fear that shadows their deeds and hampers their progress. In situations where fear would be an element one has to distinguish between courage (opposite of fear) and prudence (wisdom) from one side and fear and defeat from the other.  In other words, in order to beat your ‘sweeping’ fear does not mean to dispense with your wisdom and its ‘decent’ courage. Because in many situations being wise and prudent can dictate the same act as that of being fearful though the motives in the two cases are absolutely different.

science and technology

You have not learned it unless …

you have not learned it unless

How much time does it take us to learn a certain rule, a law or a fact? And how often we would forget it? One would find an excuse for unusual forgetfulness in the too much terminology or the apparent complexity of such fast forgettable rule or topic. Here, I would try to answer this question: You have not learnt it unless…?

As a constant provision for those who wish to learn many things, as many as they could, is that one cannot and should not learn everything. From the good things, that are apparently beneficial, e.g. sports, languages, manual work, etc., one can choose things that suit his/her learning abilities. On the other hand, one should avoid every bad thing, e.g. saying bad words, telling lies, etc., that apparently would harm rather than benefit.

1- You have not learned it unless you have a successful model.

E.g. there are many attempts to have a model for the structure of the atom; Thomson, Rutherford, Bohr, Schrödinger, .. So the model shaping is important.

2- You have not learned it unless you say it mathematically.

E.g. Mendel could express mathematically the hereditary process for the first time in human history in the garden peas. Mendel’s laws, thence, opened the door to Genetics and Molecular Biology.

3- You have not learned it unless you know its zero and its maximum.

E.g. the different scales for measuring temperature depend on defining a zero point (melting of ice is the 0°C) and a maximum point (boiling of water at 1atm is the 100°C). The absolute temperature scale (Kelvin, K) resides on values that can be extrapolated in the gas laws; 0°C = 273K, or 0K = -273°C.

4- You have not learned it unless you have a scale.

E.g. a famous statement by Niels Bohr (as far as I could remember): “Everything that can be measured is present” or “Everything that is present can be measured”.

5- You have not learned it unless you are aware of its reverse.

Obviously, we would not learn about light in the absence of the darkness.

6- You have not learned it unless you see it.

E.g. the dispersion of white light into its seven colors by a prism is a striking experiment for this fact.

7- You have not learned it unless you make it yourself.

E.g. the art of paper folding, Origami, is very difficult to learn through watching. Step by step self-making is much more feasible.

8- You have not learned it unless you pass it out.

E.g. some knowledge is made much easy to learn and remember by passing it out, e.g. language grammar.

9- You have not learned it unless you see it from above.

Human moral and ethical faults or defects are not completely overcome unless one could avoid and forgive them as appropriate.

10- You have not learned it unless you think you should learn it.