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Making relationship in 8 steps

Are you married or in a relationship? In either case I would like to review with you the steps in making that accomplishment.

1) The encounter, 2) the initial impression, 3) the interest, 4) the decision, 5) the clang, 6) the definite impression, 7) the start and 8) the progression

1 At the encounter step you see the person for the first time and this commonly happens by chance or pre-noted by somebody.

2 Automatically you have a first impression about that person like: no impression at all, weak good impression, good positive impression, very good or negative.

3 Then interest may come or not. The interest step means that you saw or learned something that makes you sympathizing with that person. This interest is quite personal and concerns the values and views of you like abstract meanings (courage, passion, generosity, delicacy, fear, weakness, etc.). You feel that you may help this person in some way or that person may fill a gap or fulfill a mercy in you.

4 The decision means the question whether to dare it or not; would I tell that person that I would like to know more personally of him/ her? This is indeed a very difficult and delicate step. On making this decision many things interact like time, conditions, place, duties and personal resolution. However, this step should not be that overwhelming, though very sensitive, because it is only halfway of the route; there are still 4 steps ahead. To know if you got the interest of that person try to know the reason and define and analyze that point of interest. A true interest is the one that makes up a genuine component of you so that you like that person with all his/ her problems and drops (deficiencies).

5 The clang!!!!! How your decision presented and what were its repercussions? Sometimes just on making your decision clear you feel that you were wrong and rushed!! The person may also react in appropriately being embarrassed, surprised, shocked or whatever. The clang means if you could go to the next step. The step of that clang is important because it lasts long and may not be overlooked easily. This is why you should be very clever in choosing the way and time to present your decision. In this step I guess that being a bit slow and reluctant may be better than rushing and answer-ready. However, do not forget there are still 3 important steps, it is not done yet. Notice: A first-trial clang may not be that usual!!

6 The definite impression would happen after more frequent rendezvous (of course in the acceptable and approved circumstances such as family visits, public places, coffee breaks, public parties and gatherings, …). While the person is knowingly dealing in this definite impression step you expect to take everything seriously as there could be only 2 steps ahead for your relationship.

7 The start step means you both agreed to start a serious relationship with all its flowers and thorns. You start to set time, arrangements, documents, invitations, announcements, and so on.

8 The progression concerns the longevity of your relationship; fruitfulness, impact and prospects.

Footnotes:

1 A relationship is a relationship. Should you miss some person you liked in a relationship you once thought, more importantly do not miss that person in a relation they may once thought.

2 Learn of your previous genuine faults and deficiencies to bring once your genuine creations and accomplishments.

3 There is always time (never too late) on your believe and vision. Make it from your side and you will be mutually responded.

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